HOW TO TALK TO YOUR ATHLETE AFTER A TOUGH GAME

Written By Shelley Izuno

Parents, your words matter more than you realize—especially after a loss or rough performance. In those moments, athletes are vulnerable, and your reaction can shape their self-esteem and motivation.

Do this:

  • Lead with love: "I love watching you play."

  • Ask open questions: "What did you learn?" or "What felt tough today?"

  • Stay calm: Avoid analyzing or criticizing right away.

  • Reinforce effort over outcome: Focus on growth, not stats.

Avoid this:

  • Giving immediate technical advice unless they ask for it

  • Comparing them to others

  • Talking about winning or losing as the most important part

Your job isn’t to fix—it’s to support. Let them feel, process, and come back stronger.

Shelley Izuno https://www.gc-train.com
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