HELPING ATHLETES MANAGE EXPECTATIONS

Pressure to perform can come from everywhere—coaches, parents, peers, even the athletes themselves. Managing expectations helps athletes stay focused on growth, not just perfection.

Key ideas to teach athletes:

• Differentiate goals vs. expectations: Goals are things to strive for. Expectations often imply required success. Let go of the outcome obsession.

• Focus on process: Emphasize effort, preparation, and attitude over stats or rankings.

• Use neutral self-talk: Instead of “I have to win,” shift to “I’m going to compete with everything I’ve got.”

Advice for parents and coaches:

• Praise behaviors, not outcomes

• Avoid comparing your athlete to others

• Let them know you love them win or lose

Mental freedom comes when athletes know their value isn’t tied to performance.